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Suicidal feelings in 7 year old?

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changeforthebetterforObama Sat 29-Dec-12 20:34:52

DD is a bright, bouncy little girl. Does ok at school. Not stellar but just fine. She is energetic and obsessive. She is fairly small among her peers (IUGR) and has pretty short hair. It just grows very slowly. She often tells me she hates her face and body. I listen and talk to her about her feelings, trying not to dismiss them. I am far from an appearance is everything type. I love clothes and make up but also love being comfortable with no make up and glasses.

What really frightens me is that she has been saying with increasing frequency that she wants to die and that she hates our family. I want to take her to the GP but feel I will get fobbed off. This is not some chocolate and festivity-fuelled outburst. She has been saying this for a few months. It did occur last. Year and the school put her on the Rainbows programme for a few months, then said she was fine.

The thing is I know her, she shares a lot of my traits (though is daredevil where I was meek). When she says she hates herself, I believe her. I have had depressive episodes my whole life, though only once really badly, long before she was born.

Any experiences to share? I have split up with H.he is also a depressive (both of us work),more extreme than me.

I want to help her and I don't want to get fobbed off by the NHS hmm

The thing is, I know her.

Sirzy Sat 29-Dec-12 20:38:22

I am no expert in the area by any means but it sounds like you need to push of a CAMHs refferal. Can you go and see the GP without her to explain your concerns and insist on a refferal? When she is back at school probably worth having a meeting with them to.

Good luck, hope you get it sorted soon x

Sirzy Sat 29-Dec-12 20:39:46

Also, if you repost in the Child and Adolencent mental health you may find more people who have been through similar and can give better advice

changeforthebetterforObama Sat 29-Dec-12 20:41:53

Thanks, I didn't know about that board thanks

Sycamoretrees Sat 29-Dec-12 20:44:49

Is there a doctor or nurse at your surgery that you like? Maybe you could get an appointment with them and visit on your own so you can explain what's going on without your DD listening in? In my experience picking the right GP or nurse is critical to getting taken seriously - sad as that is. Sorry I can't be of much help, other than to say she is lucky to have you, listening and taking her concerns seriously and wanting to help are exactly the right things to be doing. Lots of TLC in order for both of you!

Cheesemonkey Sat 29-Dec-12 20:48:38

You definitely need professional advice. Explain to you GP what she is saying ( alongside how often and for how long). It is important your GP knows that it has been going on for over a year and she has already been on an intervention programme but the problems still persist. Also tell GP family history of depression.
I would expect a GP to take this seriously, if for any reason they Sony insist on seeing another GP until you are happy.
If they refer you on to someone else, make sure you find out how long it will be before you hear from them and who to contact if you don't hear.
There are excellent professionals out there with the skills to help your DD, but sometimes you have to find you inner pushy parent to get to them.
Good Luck,

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