School playgriund.

[luluharry]

Hello all,

Just after some advice, firstly I will say, my ds can be a handful, he is quite highly strung, and can he excitable. However, this morning in the playground the parent of another child approached me and told me to "do something about my child as he is picking on her child", they are 4 years old. I asked who her child is, as I don't know this parent, I told her I was aware of one incident at the start of term but the teachers had not told me of any other incidents.

I then saw this parent talking with a local child minder who also works in a local nursery (I removed ds from this nursery and had to complain about this particular child minder) she does not have the best reputation, and I am fairly confident that they were talking about my child.

I think the best thing maybe to just leave it? but it doesn't seem right that a group of adults would be so nasty, also I just don't think it was appropriate for this mum to approach me directly and so aggressively,

What do you think?

[delilabell]

I'd tell the school. Just so they're aware of her comments and also could reassure me if something is happening or not.

[luluharry]

thank you delilabell

[Ausparent]

I posted about something similar yesterday. I would really recommend speaking to the school and offering your support for resolving any issues. It is a horrible experience when a parent approaches you directly, even when they are nice about it.

I found that not only is upsetting when a parent approaches you directly but it is also not constructive. They can only tell you what their child has told them and you were there either so what can you do? If there is a problem, only by involving the school can things be properly resolved. They will have a better idea of what is actually happening and tell you how you can help.

Try not to worry about what they are saying. You can't stop it and thinking about it will only stress you out. As long as everything is ok with the school, try and let the other stuff go.

Keep your chin up

[Painfulpain]

Or, how about finding out what your son is doing to her child, to provoke this reaction

I went through the school and did everything properly when my dd was terrorised through yearR and 1. Given that time again, I absolutely would be going for the parents and making their lives he'll until they sorted out their idiot kids

[Wolfiefan]

Talk to the school.
Handful, highly strung and excitable? Are they euphemisms for badly behaved though?! What exactly do you mean?

[GreenTulips]

I have also approach a parent

Parents are generally more effective than school at sorting the issues

Ask your son what he's doing
Speak to the teachers
Deal with it