DD is 5, other girl is seven. Obviously I don't know her individual issues but from things school have mentioned as well as what other children's parents have said I gather she has additional needs.
It all began with my daughter returning from school saying she had been in a 'cuddle she couldn't get out of' with a bigger girl. She also told me that this girl had taken her friends hair band and snapped it.
So as it was the second week of reception I went to chat to the teacher and and the teacher asked my child to stay away from this other girl to which I was a bit as I thought it was a bit victim blameu. Anyway this happened a few times further ( hitting her, calling her 'stupid' and 'ugly' ) so myself and my partner went in for a proper sit down with the teacher after school and the teacher advised us that the school 'had previous processes in place over lunch break' for this girl and perhaps this needed to be reinforced.
My DD then told me this girl was always with a dinner lady in the yard following this chat. I went for a coffee with some other mums and one of them mentioned they had been to see the teacher about an older girl hitting their child -you've guessed it, the same girl. Another mum in the group had a son in the same class as her and she's been causing a lot of problems within her own class but being older and more mature, the girls in her class have chosen to ignore her. Here lies the problem;
This girl has now decided my daughter is to be her friend. She's following her around even when we've told our daughter to be polite but firm to avoid antagonising her. Told our daughter to go to a dinner lady if she's bothering her. Today this is what she did, and this girl burst into tears and my daughter got told off for not including her.
Parents of children with additional needs, how should I tell my child to handle this? She's only 5 and doesn't really understand the concept of children with autism or other SEN. I don't want to tell her to be mean or push her away, but at the same time she's not listening to her and I just don't want my child being forced to play with her bully. What can I do? (Aside from speak to the teacher again which I will do tomorrow)
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needalittleL · 25/01/2017 22:42
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