don't know what to do.(3 Posts)
So in reception last year my boy had a scrap with another friend in class. It was his friend and after the event they continued to play and be friendly
and I thought little of it as they were only 4/5 years old. Later that year when my boy approached the other boy in the playground in a friendly manor his mother dragged her boy away from my boy. She told me she didn't approve of their friendship and wanted them kept apart. I was shocked and upset at the time but ignored this and told my son
he could play with whoever he wanted as long as no fighting involved. The rest of reception and year 1 passed uneventfully and myself and said mother kept out of each other's way at school pick up. I wasn't too worried. My boy often told me said boy's mother told him not to play with him.
Now in year two the boys have been moved into different classes, however in the play ground this other boy has started being really unkind to him. Using F and S words towards him. Pulling his other friends off of him in the playground to try and end up with my boy playing alone. Calling my boy weird, pushing him in puddles etc etc you get the idea. General low grade bullying. My son is mildly upset atm not too bad but it rears it's head every week or so.
This is the catch. The said boy is from a notorious "family" shall we say who I have been told are not very "kind" to other members of the community. I've also been told they are not the most law abiding citizens. Barred from pubs for fighting. Not paying for services in local shops. You get the idea.
Normally I would talk with the teacher or speak to the parents myself but I'm not sure this is actually the best course of action.
Advise much appreciated as I feel
I would approach the school, not the family.
Difficult - so far you have done nothing wrong - boys allowed to play etc - except your son is being told by the other boy he can't play - this is undermining your sons confidence in himself - so he become a natural victim.
The teachers need to build a picture and being young deal with it straight away - DS meds to speak up - or dinner ladies watching etc - plus point that they are in different classes!!!
You need to speak for him and log all incidents however small - because they add up - it becomes mental torcher
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