Any advice to deal with 16mo BF dd always groping me?

[ImNotCute]

Hi, I mainly just lurk here but would appreciate some advice. I've been BFing dd for 16 months and it's mostly been trouble-free, I've enjoyed it.

But a few months ago dd realised she could get to my boobs by yanking my top down and now I'm starting to get fed up of being grabbed at by her all the time. She is at nursery 3 days a week so I know she copes fine without feeding, but when I'm with her often it's all she wants- I try to distract her or offer water but often give in because she's so insistent.

Without this battle I'd still be enjoying BFing, instead I'm getting fed up of her hands down my top all the time. At the weekend she was tweaking my nipples while we tried to buy a laptop in PC world

I'm in two minds whether to try getting tougher with her, or just try to relax and feed on demand. AIBU hoping to just feed her morning & bedtime now she's eating quite well and drinking water? I'd be happy with 1 or 2 extra feeds during the day but not the constant on and off she wants.

Has anyone else had similar problems and do you have any good ideas? Am wondering whether it would be worth getting some polo-necks to try to restrict access, not sure if it would help.

[whomovedmychocolatecookie]

DD did this at a similar point and she got a 'no' and put straight down on the floor each and every time and it did stop her doing it. I taught her to ask if she wanted milk. And it's incredibly cute when your toddler says or signs 'mummy, milk please' (DD did this with arms outstretched in an imploring manner with big arms - always made me chortle).

It does pass btw, and then they move onto new interesting and infuriating habits!

[ImNotCute]

Thanks! I think I'm a bit of a soft touch really, for an easy life I cave in when she's grabbing at me. She has a real scream if I try to remove her from me, but if after a few times she realises she's not going to get anything by grabbing maybe things will improve.

[whomovedmychocolatecookie]

Yup. Tis a hard lesson but sometimes we are a bit too responsive. I've got two now (tandem fed for a while) and you eventually realise that yelling for 30 seconds in disgust is not a sign or pain/fear/long term damage

I also have a 16 month old and he has much more irritating habits than boob pawing. He's a biter