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Extended bfs- can you ever go away?

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johnthepong Tue 28-Jul-09 20:52:45

Im still breastfeeding my 18month old. He only has milk before bed and then in the morning.

I would really like to go away for a night but I just dont know how he would cope. Im sure he would be fine without his morning feed as long as my h gave him breakfast, but I think he would scream the house down at bedtime. I just dont think he would sleep without his breastfeed.

How has your LO coped if you have wanted to go away for a night?

StealthPolarBear Tue 28-Jul-09 20:54:30

We went away for weddings for one night when DS was 15 months and 18 months. He tayed with grandparents.
I don't think it was fun for them - but it was fine! Bedtime is totally different when mummy's not there I think - does he fall asleep ever for anyone else (during the day say?)
I had to express though or I'd have been leaking by 10pm!

StealthPolarBear Tue 28-Jul-09 20:55:23

Though I was feeding a lot more than morning or night. Now he's 2, I am feeding morning and night and the odd time he's missed both feeds I've been fine, so maybe you wouldn't need to express

PortAndLemon Tue 28-Jul-09 20:56:02

DS breastfed until he was 3.2 but I went away for four nights with work when he was around 14 months and again around 16 months and he was fine. And I left him with DH, or DH and I left him with MIL, for several one-off nights as well. It tended to work out that if I was there he wanted to breastfeed, but if I wasn't he was fine without.

Spidermama Tue 28-Jul-09 20:56:16

I don't think you'd have a problem for one night. It's not like he's exclusive breastfed now after all.

I think it would be fine. Could you express and get whoever's looking after him to offer?

johnthepong Tue 28-Jul-09 21:00:09

He wont ever fall asleep for anyone else during the day-in fact he dosnt sleep in the daytime at all unless he falls asleep in the car. If he is particularly miserable tired, then I might occasionally feed him in bed in the day til he falls asleep.

I have tried leaving dh to put him to bed with no bf to see how it goes, and he just cried and cried and cried unti I went and gave him his bf.

johnthepong Tue 28-Jul-09 21:01:39

Im not worried about how much milk he has or giving his expressed milk or anything- its the actual physical act of breastfeeding that helps him to settle to sleep.

Umlellala Tue 28-Jul-09 21:11:59

Gosh, i am so with you- ds is 12mths and haven't felt able to leave him even for a long evening... I am trying to add sleep associations now, so that when I take the bf away (either from me not being there, or more likely, me stopping bf entirely) it will be easier to cope with. This is the theory anyway grin.

At the moment, ds sometimes goes to sleep after latching off and writhing around next to me. I ssh and put hand on his back/back of neck or chest.

I have also introduced a comforter who kisses him before breastfeeding and he holds/strokes. Am also starting the bedtime routine by giving him a cup of milk with some stories. He sometimes has a sip of water from the Tommee Tippee cup at night-time to resettle. I also try not to bf him in the evening if he wakes...

Hoping it will make things easier, watch this space.

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