We are thinking about TTC DC3 either late this year or next year. I really really want a 3rd but the fact I didn't BF DS1 or DS2 has been playing on my mind.
With DS1 I didn't really want to BF at all. I don't know why but I just didn't fancy it. But at 36 weeks after my MW asked what I was planning to do she managed to persuade me to give it a go.
A week before I had DS1 my MW broke her ankle so I didn't see her at all after he was born. 30 minutes before he was born I had Pethedine, which I have been told since can make them sleepy and reluctant to feed.
I couldn't get him to latch on at all and the MWs and nurses in the hospital didn't really care. We came home and the MW came the next day and just said to keep trying but said she didn't have the time to show me how to latch him on. After an hour and a half of him screaming for food I caved in and gave him a bottle(we had bought them before I decided to try BF). He was then fully FF.
With DS2 I had always said that I was going to BF him until he was about 8 months as that is when I am due back at work. I had him at home and he weighed 10lb 5oz. My normal MW was on holiday from the day after he was born so again saw a few MWs. First MW weighed him and he had dropped to 9lb 6oz. She said he was bordering on having to be admitted to hospital as he had lost more than 10% but she said we'd give him a few days. She also gave me great tips on positioning and latching on. I thought things were going really well.
The next day I saw another MW and he had only put on 1oz. I thought it was ok because it was a gain but no. She said we had to give him formula top ups. She sent my DH out in the rain to get formula. I tried to say that it wasn't what I wanted but she said if I didn't give him them then she would have to take him to hospital and they might have to tube feed him. At 5 days post natal, not much sleep plus a 19 month old DS1 I just backed down.
I didn't realise how much those few bottles would affect BF. He didn't want to latch on, once on he would come off pretty much straight away and just wasn't interested.
I struggled on with mixed feeding until he was 6 weeks old but then realised that it would be easier to just FF him.
DS2 is now 6 months and I still have pangs of guilt, sadness and anger. I went to visit a friend in hospital when she had her premature DD and I saw this MW and hid a toilet and then cried my eyes out
I complained and was told she was being sent on an advanced BF course but she told them that she believed I didn't want to BF so she suggested the formula.
This same MW has ruined BF for me on 2 occasions now and I am so scared of it happening again. I know now that I need to try and be strong and forceful if we happen to get her again.
But is it possible to BF DC3 when the first 2 were FF? I am a bit worried that it wasn't the bad advice from the MW and maybe I just can't BF.
Thank you very much.
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Kayzr · 06/07/2009 13:44
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