I'm giving up BF tonight .... LO doesnt know yet , any helpful hints ???

[amner]

Or do I just go cold turkey

He's 21 months now and I feel its time to stop. I know theres no going back and I'm happy with that.

This morning he bit my nipple so hard it bled and it still hurts now.

Any good advice ?

[MatNanPlus]

All the best {hug}

I suspect he is going to be upset, could you go out and have DP do the whole evening routine?

[glaskham]

He could go either way, either be really upset, or like mine not even notice!!

Though i did it at 12mths, so much younger then your LO.

I just woke them up with a luke warm cup of milk, they never batted an eyelid!! I expected it to be really hard and was prepared for the worst!!

Hope it all goes well for you!!

[amner]

I hope he doesn't notice... that would be brilliant.

He's outside playing at the moment, and he's missed his usual afternoon nap. I'm hoping that he will be so tired that he'll go to bed without a fuss.

Oh I can deam can't I ...........

[glaskham]

do you plan to replace his usual feeds with cows milk? thats what i did, so they still got that, and i gave it them while they had a cuddle normally, so they still got that closness, dont know if you DS will be too old/clever to get away with that though?

[Blu]

I went out and let DP put him to bed, if I'd have been there he would have wanted to feed. Then we changed the morning routine so that DP must whisked him out of bed and straight down to play and have milk out of a cup.

After 3 days he had no idea what my nipples were for. Was about the same age as yours.

[amner]

Yes Glaskham he'd having cows milk through the day, has been for a few months now. I dont think I'll be able to cuddle him though.. I think he's a bit too knowing for that.

LOL @ 3 days Blu ! I can cope with that I hope.

Thanks for all the advice. Here's to a peaceful night

[glaskham]

yep!! will be thinking of you!! repot back with how it went wont you!!

[MatNanPlus]

How did it go Amner?

[glaskham]

come on then??? how did he take it???

[amner]

Well so far so good.

He went to sleep straight away on Sunday night, but that was to be expected he was absolutely shattered. He woke up at 1 am and was upset but finally calmed down again only to wake again at 4 am !!! I very nearly gave in at that point.

As you suggested whisked him up the moment he woke and fed him porridge and all seemed to be OK.

He's used to not having anything through the day,so that was OK. But when he's tired he starts grabbing and pulling at my clothes so I was expecting this to happen in the evening... but surprise ... he didnt !

Last night was a bit hit and miss again. He went off easily enough but then woke at 4 am. Again, I nearly gave in, but managed not too. I think we are nearly there

The worst thing about it is the engorgement. Its really really painfull. I'm absolutely amazed at how much milk I must have been producing. I had to express a tiny bit off yesterday as I just couldnt move one side. Today is a bit better, but still very full. I'm sat here with a cup of sage tea and cabbage in my bra in the vain hope this might slow down the milk production.

I guess it will be OK in a couple more days, but I'll be sorry to see my plump norks go

I think I'm almost there. I'm a bit sad.. but its just the end of one stage and the start of the next.

Thanks for your virtual support.

[glaskham]

Sounds like between you you're doing well so far!!

Can DH/DP not get up in the night while your stopping BF? might make it easier on you and DS for this period of time??

I never had the drying up of milk for some reason, I was still feeding DD 4-6 times a day when i stopped, and i still have milk in my breasts today!! though as I'm currently ttc dc3 doesn't make much sense to dry it up.

[amner]

You must be joking !!!

DH is rubbish at the best of times.

I dread to think how he would be with sleep deprivation too !

Good luck with number 3 !

[glaskham]

Thanks!! I suppose my DH is the same!!- has never done any night time waking... only just gets up with them on a day off because i make them jump on him in bed!!!