My DD (11 months)is constantly switching between breasts - every 20 seconds! It's driving me mad. Has anyone else had this problem? What can I do to keep her 'routed'! Also, why do you think she is doing this?
DD is doing this too, been meaning to post for a while. She is nearly 13 months and gets v upset if I don't have both boobs out. Makes feeding v awkward atm! No advice though, just going to watch your replies
She's doing it because the "grass is always greener"!
This is the beginning of the toddler-ish yelling for whatever she hasn't got - along the lines of - you hand your dd a nice drink in a nice green cup. "I wanted the BLUE cup" scream/wail/sob. You swap cups with a sigh giving her the blue cup. "I want the GREEN cup" she screams in utter fury. You give her the green cup. "NO NO NO" she screams - I WANT THE BLUE CUP"
No solutions - but she should learn not to fuss if you stop feeding her and stand up everytime she does it! The penny will drop in the end - if you can stand the yelling.
DS2 did this and it was the beginning of the end for breastfeeding for us. He was around 2. He lost interest really and started to play, cuddle more with my breasts than really feed. Might not be the case for your little one of course.
Everytime she does it I think "I'm going to stand my ground today, so we can feed when out and about" but then the crying starts and it is just easier to give in <sigh>
The thing is we have had a lot of biting recently so at the moment I am willing to do anything for a pain free life! But maybe I need to be a bit more strict with her. It's not terribly discreet and quite frankly it is a PITA.
Urk, mawbroon, I just got the shivers really badly when I read about the nipple twiddling - DS is 7mo and doesn't do this so far but is starting to fidget at his feeds and unlatch just after let down so milk sprays everywhere (often in his ears/up his nose ) so I might have this to look forward to <sigh>; but if he starts with the old Radio Caroline bit then that will be the beginning of the end for bfing!
SO pleased to read this thread, that its not only us who have this problem!!
Ah... the 'pepsi challenge' as my DH calls it!!
Afraid I can't offer any advice at all. I also read some great stuff on Kellymom about nursing manners. Unfortunately my DD has not responded to any of it!
My DD is 18months now. She twiddles the other nipple when feeding from the other side. She pats, strokes, pinches etc both breasts whilst feeding! sometimes its really nice as she is really gentle and strokes, and I feel really close to her. She also does bite at times. usually as she is pulling off the breast. it hurts SO much. She is finally getting the message that if she bites when she's finished on oneside, she doesn't get the other side!
I've tried keeping the other side inside, covered up, but she's pretty good at just pulling it out, or unclipping the bra that I've given up! Does mean we can't ever feed anywhere but at home.
I think personally, she just gets bored and wants to change position. Most evenings, after bathtime, we sit on the sofa ad she sits on my lap facing me, going from one side to the other, whilst I watch various Soaps..
At night/early morning, I just go back to sleep, boobs out and she does what she wants! DH watches us sometimes. He says its one of his fav times of the day. lying next to us, sunday morning, watching her standing up, kneeling like a goat, sitting on my chest, lying across me and so it goes on. He watches laughing quietly, as she manages to be latched on and turn her body completely upside down!
Shit, sorry i've gone on SO much. really nice to share it with someone else who doesn't think i'm;
a) mad for still feeding her at 18months b) mad for 'letting' her be in such control of my body still after 18months!
Oh how I wish for the nipple twiddling to stop....
Susie - PMSL at same time as shivering even more at possible things to come! DS has always done the soft stroking thing which is nice, but has just started the chest slapping thing, which isn't so nice, and his hand has veered towards the other nip a few times now (so far I've managed to keep him off it). It is definitely the angelic look on the face that gets me, when he does his most cheeky manoeuvres!