Some really good questions there Hunker. I'll try to answer them (with apologies for the essay that follows...)
Yes at the beginning I was able to make an informed choice and I chose to breastfeed - no question. Having said that I had a lot of information about the benefits of breastfeeding. I can't say that I was given any information specifically about the downside of formula feeding, though I knew it already to a point. My choice was based on bf being the obvious, natural thing to do. Someone from a different background might not have come to that conclusion.
Later on, as you know, I didn't really have a choice if DS wasn't going to starve.
Your second question is a difficult one. During the antenatal period I think women are generally more focussed on getting through the pregnancy and giving birth to a healthy baby - I know I was. I had an NHS antenatal class on breastfeeding. In hindsight this did state that breastfeeding can be very hard - at the time though I didn't really take it on board.
I think it would have been really useful to have a one to one about breastfeeding soon after the birth - even just a ten minute chat with some leaflets and helpline numbers would have been useful, just to know that it's OK to find it hard and to ask for help.
I found out during a visit for a postnatal check that the hospital had a breastfeeding room. No one told me this while I was there after the birth(for 3 days). To be able to sit and breastfeed with other new mums and a dedicated midwife/counsellor on hand to help us would have been terrific.
I think the booking-in pack could include a lot more information about breastfeeding, notwithstanding what I said above.
The antenatal class I attended wasn't that useful because it was rather chaotic. I am not sure at all that a lecture-style is an appropriate method as breastfeeding is a skill that can only be learned by observation and practice. I wonder if there are any mums who would be prepared to breastfeed their baby in front of mums-to-be - that would be much more useful than videos and posters.
The last set of questions is really tricky as I can see it both ways. There are perhaps three groups of women to consider:
a) those who choose to breastfeed but find it really difficult and have to supplement with formula for whatever reason, including those who cannot breastfeed at all for medical reasons
b) those who choose not to breastfeed because they don't want to
c) those who genuinely believe that formula is just as good as or better than breastmilk and therefore actively choose to formula feed
Speaking from a personal point of view I do think there are dangers in giving women too much information about the risks of formula feeding. Yes, knowing the risks can certainly focus the mind when one is struggling to establish breastfeeding and feeling tempted to pack it in. However, a new mother is often in an extremely vulnerable physical and mental state and may not be thinking clearly. As I said, speaking personally, I was desperate to breastfeed and it wasn?t working out. I had read that formula fed babies have a higher risk of cot death. In my precarious postpartum mental state, I managed to convince myself that I was going to kill my baby because I was having to supplement him with formula. Knowing the risks certainly focussed my mind and helped me to keep breastfeeding to some extent until he was 4 months, but I went to emotional hell and back in the process. Was it worth it? Knowing the effect my emotional state had on my establishing relationship with DS I am not sure to be honest. And I only had mild PND, if at all.
However, if there really are women out there who think formula is just as good or even, God forbid, better than breastfeeding, then clearly something has to be done to address that. I personally wouldn?t worry too much about making women feel guilty for formula feeding if that is truly their choice from the outset. My view on that would be that if they feel guilty then the message is getting through. If they were completely happy with the decision they wouldn?t feel guilty. In that case, better to get the information at the outset so they can make an informed choice and not find out when it?s too late.
In the case of women who are forced into formula feeding against their initial wishes, for whatever reason, then the main guilt they feel comes from within. So the information per se, as long as it is delivered in a sensitive way, wouldn?t ?make? them feel guilty I don?t think. But there needs to be a balance struck between emphasising that breastfeeding is the optimal feeding method and that formula has its risks (which tbh I think the majority of women know), but avoiding dramatic claims of alleged links to terrible diseases etc. which could be incredibly upsetting to women who have no choice.
God that?s a mammoth post ? sorry!