DC3 is 9wks and ebf, nighttimes are a complete nightmare. He wakes at least every 90 mins for a feed, as he has since the beginning and is showing no signs of going longer, and I am now really struggling.
When he wakes, he sometimes only feeds for a few minutes before falling asleep, but is then difficult to get back into the cot as he wakes as soon as transferred. It's like a cycle of waking and very light sleeping, in very short bursts. He often wakes very quickly after being put in, so he's in and out for hours.
He feeds frequently in the day too, only really going longer stretches if we have been in the car and he's very deeply asleep. He often swallows air which makes him uncomfortable. He had a tongue tie at birth which has been clipped, but I can't get any deeper latch.
He has to start going longer than this, it's not sustainable and I can't function on the 2-3 hrs a night I am getting. We cosleep sometimes but feeds seem to be even more frequent then, and he suffers with wind as then he's not sat up and burped.
He's the 3rd child i have breastfed, and i totally expect night wakings but not to be up for most of the night, every night. I don't want to introduce formula but this can't continue, any ideas?
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Bf at night, don't know what to do
snoggle · 16/08/2014 01:16
At not being able to take older dc to bf support group. It's not like that round here. Also there's a lactation specialist who does house calls and a peer support network of trained bf mums who also do the community groups and home visits on a volunteer basis. Talk to your HV about getting support and insist.
TT needs to be checked again as he may still have scar tissue from the snip or a posterior tie affecting tongue function. Again you need to insist on a consult with TT clinic or look into private TT specialists in your area. Hopefully go back to who you've seen already. Say that the frequent feeding is not normal for this age and a good sign that he's still not getting enough milk per feed.
The UNICEF baby friendly initiative has details of where TT can be divided which is good place to find a specialist if you need a second opinion. In my area the consultant has delegated the clinic to a very knowledgable midwife who is able to discern slight TT. Not all HCP can spot it.
As for coping in the meantime I suggest co sleeping. I get your point about wind but it's relatively easy to sit up baby to burp and lie back down again. The air gulping also may be a TT symptom.
this is helpful to get comfy lying down. The whole series of videos really helped me when i was struggling with getting ds2 latched, with posterior TT.
Otherwise 
sorry you're going through this. I think you're right that something's not right with this at 9wo. Do try to keep going, you've got this far, you've done really well. I know things will improve for you, this time goes by so quickly you think it'll never end but then when you look back it was not a long time to struggle.
What helped me keep going was the knowledge of how lovely and easy it is to feed once bf is established. Like you it's taken longtime for me to establish bf with both of mine and I see establishing bf as the hardest thing to do out of pregnancy birth and bf!!! 9 weeks is still normal to struggle so take heart but don't be fobbed off by HCP as you need to take steps to improve situation.
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