BFing relationship vs TTC

[jaggythistle]

Hi, My Ds is 20mo and we've been TTC no 2 for 9 months.

I'm not thinking of stopping bfing right now, but it's been in the back of my mind recently, just wondering if it's making TTC more difficult. I just have thoughts swirling about about what if I did stop and it made no difference etc.

Being super broody doesn't seem to be good for my brain

I have googled a lot and read the Kellymom info about it maybe impeding implantation a bit or shortening LP. My LP has been about 12 days ish every month, so not that short and I am charting so have noted the other signs that I seem to be ovulating and also seem to have regular cycles.

I love bfing DS, he's actually not very bothered/demanding most of the time so we only have 2-3 feeds a day. I do feed him if he wakes at night but luckily it's not too often these days.

I guess I am just looking for a bit of chat about how others got on - did you eventually stop or just carry on and see what happened? Did you regret your decision etc. i have chatted to some people on the TTC while bfing thread but thought it'd be busier here!

I know I am really just feeling unnecessarily impatient as DS was conceived very quickly - guess I was one of the lucky ones very fertile after stopping the pill. :)

I don't want to just stop getting nice snuggles with my boy, but some days I get so impatient thinkng about another baby I could explode.

[Iggly]

I conceived twice while BF - I think my cycle changed a bit since having DS (and being on the pill), so had to target ovulation earlier. I'm now 14 weeks (had a MC) last time and still BF. it took a few cycles to get there but relatively quick.

I don't think I was ovulating every time or when I thought I was. In the end with this one, we DTD when I felt randy which was more successful than charting!!!

I didn't think about giving up BF - but since being pregnant I have done. DS is 20 months and I feel guilty despite having done very well to get this far!

[jaggythistle]

In that case I shall have to pounce on DH when i get in from work sorry TMI! How come I always 'feel like it' when i'm at work? Hopefully DS will still be asleep

I feel guilty even considering stopping as DS does seem to love his 'molk'. :)

[jaggythistle]

Thanks BTW and sorry for smiley overload in that post!

[4madboys]

i conceived twice whilst bfeeding and i was still feeding at night and more thna you were during the day. so it can happen :)

[Iggly]

your DH will be pleased

[mawbroon]

I was ttc for 2.5yrs while breastfeeding and I didn't get pg until I stopped nightfeeding completely.

What put me off weaning ds1 was the thought of weaning him, milk drying up and then still not getting pregnant.

I'm glad I waited because ds1 is still nursing, 15months after ds2 was born, so he was nowhere near ready to wean back then.

Good luck!!

[AngelDog]

Iggly, congratulations. :) :)

Marking my place - AF hasn't yet returned at 17 months and DH and I are starting to feel slightly twitchy.

[Mishy1234]

I conceived DS2 whilst still bf (night feeds also) DS1. It took 8 years and 3 rounds of IVF to conceive DS1, so to say we weren't particularly hopeful that anything would happen naturally was an understatement! In fact, we pushed back starting IVF by a few months so I didn't have to wean DS1!

It seems that you know your cycle well, but have you had any tests to check if you're actually ovulating? I had a blood test (progesterone I think) to check if I was ovulating and it came back negative. I turned out I WAS, but just quite late and I had a borderline length luteal phase (9-10 days). In any case, we tried all the non-invasive options we could (nothing to lose) and for us a combination of using a Clearblue monitor, Pre-seed and Soft-cups seemed to work and relatively quickly after only a couple of tries.

Hope all goes well and you get a positive result soon!

[Iggly]

Thanks Angel

My periods came back when DS suddenly dropped night feeds (although he did resume again!)

[AngelDog]

We've talked about night weaning, but DH isn't really up for it yet so we're sticking with the 'wait & see' policy for a while longer. :)

[Iggly]

That's far enough. We didn't night wean - he just did it. You could try just dropping one feed (unless it is just one feed!)

[AngelDog]

It is just one feed! (well, unless his sleep is disturbed for whatever reason but that doesn't count). I used to get him up & change his nappy, so I stopped doing his nappy thinking he might stop waking up, but he still does. It suits me, mind, as it's around my bedtime and I find it harder to go to sleep if I don't bf him first.

[Lynzjam]

Bump! (Hopefully in time you will have one!)

[AngelDog]

[z123]

Hi,
I'm also dying to concieve #2, while still bf DD at night and in morning, plus if she wakes up in the night. I suddenly dropped day feeding as she didn't seem interested and kept breaking off, every time, and I was getting such sore nipples!! I had a period 2.5 weeks later so that seemed to do something.... but nothing since.

I don't understand all the abbreviations on here- what's AF? and a luteal phase? Sorry, i'm not the brightest...

What can I do to increase my chances of getting pg?!?