2 BF related incidents that have really pissed me off!

[fifitot]

Just venting but tbh feel quite down about both of the following.

On Sunday me, DH, DD and baby DS having lunch in a well known pizza chain. A male waiter had taken our order and was essentially looking after our table. He had a tray of drinks to bring over to us. I had already latched DS on very discreetly and he was feeding away when said waiter approached but then stopped, turned round with the drinks and muttered something to a female colleague who then brought them over to us. FFS. Is BFing so terrible that you can't bring a drink to a table you idiot! At first thought I was being oversensitive and that this wasn't the issue but DH noticed as well.

Secondly today went to a baby group. Was discussing BFing with one of the other mums. I was telling her the difficulty I had had with DD who really didn't want to self wean and I had fed her until she was about 2 years old. Cue 2 of the other mothers exchanging a 'look'. Way to make me feel welcome.

I know these are minor incidents but just feel a bit sleep deprived and consequently sensitive. Why do people have to make something so normal so difficult?

End of rant.

[rubyslippers]

Not trying to excuse the waiter but maybe he felt you would be more comfortable with a female waitress?

Try not to take it to heart

[hillyhilly]

Because their life experience so far is different to yours - by being seen feeding or talking about extending breast feeding, you are introducing them to something that is quite new and maybe (wrongly) shocking.
BUT you are educating them - you keep going, you are making life a little easier for the next BFing mother they encounter.

[eaglewings]

Rant away!

I was waiting outside a room a few years back ready to introduced to my new work mates and I overheard them talking about me, one commented on me still bfing my ds who was only 15 months at the time.

I never really got on well with her over the 2 years we worked together