Partners not wanting a child together

[hanna96]

Hi, just want a bit of advice.

So my partner has had a vasectomy in previous relationship after his other children.
I mentioned to him about a reversal and I get mixed messages. One minute he thinks about it then others he says he doesn't want more kids as he is in his early 40s I'm in my 20s. I love him more than anything and only have my one dd who is 2.5 years old. I really want one more child together something which is ours together. I love my step children but there mother makes it very hard for me and my partner. I am really struggling to come to terms with him not wanting a child together. How and what am I meant to feel, be like or even do. Please help cause we just keep arguing about this and I end up really feeling upset and hurting and don't feel I am good enough or that he loves me as much as he did with previous baby mothers.
Please help!!!!

[Mumdiva99]

I'm guessing the previous poster is some sort of troll. Please ignore them.

Op you can't make your bf want more kids. Maybe he can't afford more. Maybe he only has enough time for his current kids. Maybe being separated from their mother so he is living separately is killing him and he never wants to get in the position again where he can be that hurt. Or maybe he's just 'done'. My DH mid 40s has said never again.....no matter what happens in his life he is absolutely sure he never wants another baby. He feels he doesn't have the energy for it again. You either accept his decision or move on and find another partner who does want kids.

[BigFatLiar]

I don't think vasectomy reversals are all that successful, it's pretty much a permanent solution. You could try but don't get your hopes up.

[Bigdick12]

i am not a troll just giving meaningful advice . i guess some people are into bullying rather than contributing