Selfish lover

[Taz14]

I've been with my bf for 20 months and he's sooooo selfish in bed. He's gone down on me 3 times in total and not for very long. I'm always saying that I need foreplay... Maybe using your hands.... Kissing my neck, pick me up and thrash me about a bit, something but no. Nothing
I'm a very sensual person who makes sure I'm satisfying his needs. Every single time we have sex I will go Down on him. I'll dress up, I'll read up on new things to try out to keep it from being boring which he loves but He just lies there, on his back. I'm always on top unless I ask him to go into another position. He's a sack of potatoes.
I always have to finish myself off... I do this when he falls asleep so he doesn't know. (yes I know that's wrong but I don't wanna offend him) I'm just bored. I'm fed up with asking him to do something. He never instigates sex. It's ALWAYS me! He seems to have it in his head that what he does is enough.
When I ask him to take the lead he just says... I will, next time you'll see. But next time never comes. I've now stopped instigating sex and waiting to see if he makes the first move. 2 weeks and counting. What do I do?

[Mrsjohnmurphy]

Next!!!! Fuck him off

[Danni93]

Hiya Taz, have you tried adult toys like a bullet. Start off then suggest that you control the bullet while he makes love your own words obvs 😂 iv been in your situation iv married 4 years and that worked for me but everyone's different give it a shot... Good luck!! X

[Eminado]

I am as “conservative” as they come but this is a.non starter. Boy bye 🤦🏽‍♀️