I have very bright kids, 12 and 9. We've always had very open discussions and in lots of ways made a rod for my own back as they're vocal about stuff that I feel other kids aren't.
Anyhow, long story short I'm selling our house (single mum) to move in with their stepdad and his children. They all get along brilliantly, no acrimony at all. They were so excited.
They've just come back from holiday with their dad and they have said they're not moving. Don't want to live with my partner, his kids, don't want to leave schools and activities. I'm changing jobs and my daughter is kicking off (she's 9) cos I won't be picking her up from school.
I totally understand their feelings, but any other parent would just say this is what we're doing. Their dad is expecting me to just acede to their wishes, and he doesn't want them with him longer if they stay at present schools. He said I've not consulted him...but it's my life!
I am not explaining it right cos I'm so emotional. I always put my children first, but in 8 years they'll be off doing college etc and won't give me a second glance.
I'm doing everything for a better life for them. Their dad and I split because he's an alcoholic. Even now he won't pay for clothes and uniform for them but buys drink every night. I go without for them.
All I've ever done is put them first, love them. Include them in things. But now they are just expecting me to give up plans because they say so.
What do I do? How do other parents just up and move miles away (I'm not going that far) and just tell their kids?
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Please please help, my children are dictators
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Tinyminx · 23/08/2014 10:05
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