ds is 3.11 will be 4 next month. He lost his dad last November so it is very fresh in his mind, his dads death was suddenish in that he was in a car accident but was revived and later died in ICU.
Ds went to say goodbye to his dad the night we withdrew treatment and gave him one of his little cuddly eeyores to keep him company, ds has kept the other one.
I am struggling to answer his questions about death funerals and his preoccupation with his own death and its impact on me. Ds's questions are very focused and intelligent the problem lies in that he is not mature enough for the answer to the question he asks. An example is If my dad died why can't you? or Will you miss me when I die? We have had some strange moments normally a busy supermarket where ds will ask me to discuss his funeral.
I know it is good that he talks about it but I am concerned as to how much he thinks about it. I know there are no easy answers but any ideas for a reply when he wants to discuss these things that he can understand would be good. It breaks my heart watching his cry begging me to bring his dad back.
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LittleMarshmallow · 19/05/2010 18:48
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