Sorry to post and run but I have a doctor's appointment.
Our son is 8 and 18 months ago his Great Nanny died. He was very upset but seemed to be coping pretty well. He would say he missed her and get a bit upset but nothing for us to worry about.
Last week he was upset and wanted me to ask the fairies to bring her back. I sent him to my PIL (he was happy to go) and my MIL spent some time talking to him and also gave him a treasure chest of some of her things, spent some time in her house and painted some pictures with her paints. He came home and seemed fine.
For a while he has been back chatting, full of attitude and being a pest to his siblings. All normal 8 year old behaviour as far as we know. No worries at school.
This morning I wanted him to carry one thing for me and had shouted at him a few times over his behaviour. He then burst into tears over carrying the water bottle and kept dropping it. I felt the tears were OTT and asked him what was wrong.
He said I knew what was wrong but I asked him to tell me so I got the right thing. I knew it was either GN or to do with fairyland. It was GN.
I have spoken to his teacher and TA this morning to let them know and to see if they can advise and the TA felt 18 months at this age was a life time and she would expect him to have moved on by now.
I don't buy that really as every child is different and I know I can't believe my Nana has gone and it was 4 years last week.
How can we help him?
I think there are 2 separate issues as he isn't that devious to play up and then try and get out of it by saying he is upset about GN. He is a sensitive chap and my heart just breaks for him.
Sorry this is so long. I got half way through and then lost it so apologies if this gets posted twice.
I have to go out now but I will check back later if anyone has any ideas.
The TA also said take him to the GP but DH and I aren't sure what he would/could do and DH also said he doesn't think he needs grief counselling.
Thank you.
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FabulousBakerGirl · 10/06/2009 09:49
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