My lovely SIL separated from her husband of 30 years some 4 or 5 years ago.
In March, she went on holiday for a month, to Australia, where her two daughters now live. (They had both only just gone there, with their respective partners, to ensure the final stages of their residency/citizenship)
One week into her holiday we heard that her exH had died.
Although they were separated, she was still very fond of him and they had a very amicable relationship.
Anyway, long story short and all that. There is a memorial service for him next week.
I'm dreading it. (OK, I know that no-one looks forward to funerals/memorials).
It's 5 years since my mum died, and I haven't really felt that I've grieved for her.
I'm also hugely sentimental, and any funeral will set me off crying - even someone I don't know.
I know I'm going to cry, and I feel that it's hugely hypocritical of me. I didn't really like him that much, to be brutally honest (although I was still sad to hear that he had died). And I just feel that me crying will be all about me and not about my SIL or her daughters.
Sorry, this is long winded.
Does anyone else suffer like this? How can I stop myself from crying and being so self indulgent?
What distraction techniques can I use - how can I stop myself from what seems like a pavlovian response? i.e. the minute the organ music starts, I know I'll start weeping, etc
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BecauseImWorthIt · 20/04/2009 00:09
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