Hi all, I'm hoping for some advice. My beloved mum is dying. She has metastatic cancer and advanced heart failure, and from diagnosis two months ago has now advanced to the stage of being bedridden, catheterised and unable to eat solid food. I'm living abroad (in the US) so I haven't been able to fly home see her since she was diagnosed a few months back. I was talking with her by telephone every day up until this week, but then she had a rapid decline and doesn't have enough energy or breath to speak on the telephone any more. I'm devastated that she's going through this, and to think I will likely never hear her voice again. I would like to write her a letter to say goodbye, but have I left it too late? I gather from my sister and brothers that she is groggy most of the time now from the strong drugs her palliative care team has prescribed, and doesn't have the energy to sit up, read or watch TV.
I don't know why but I thought I would have more warning that the end was near, but from chatting for an hour one day and then for our communication to be suddenly cut off is quite bewildering.
I've left it too late, haven't I?
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Lilalulu · 27/02/2021 00:56
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