My Mum died very suddenly aged 58 last October. At the time I think I was in shock. I had 3 days given as bereavement from work and then took some annual leave for a week. I was back at work less than two weeks after her death and honestly did not feel at all ready. Over the past year since her death I have had more sick days than I've ever had due to severe migraines, I believe mainly due to stress and potentially because I haven't really dealt with my mother's death.
Because of the circumstances of her death a post mortem was carried out but it was referred to be investigated and go to inquest as the coroner wasn't happy with the results. This weekend we received some statements from the people who were in charge of her care and a covering letter from the coroner. Without going in to too many details it essentially says she would still be alive today if they had followed guidelines. There are some very obvious and damning failures.
I'm so torn, I just don't know how to deal with this information. How do you process the fact that someone's fuck up directly caused her death?! I didn't cry when I read the letters or even after but I'm in work today and I'm a mess. I've cried 3 times already. If anyone dares to ask me if I'm OK I break down again. I'm currently sat in my car on my lunch break in bits not wanting to go back in.
Advice please! I'm worried about losing my job if I go off sick for any longer and even if I get signed off with stress I feel it will be held against me, especially as it's a year on from her death. I feel like she died all over again and I don't know what to do.
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ICanEatWhat · 18/11/2019 13:10
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