My best friend died just before Christmas and I still think of her every day but it's not a happy way to think of her, it's sadness still. I miss her. I am still freshly shocked that she has gone. I think about her casket at her funeral and can't quite comprehend how it's possible she was really in there. I look at photos of her and read our old messages.
I saw her on her deathbed and she was so weak. She didn't want me to go but she needed to sleep and we cuddled and I kissed her head and told her I love her and that was the last time I saw her.
One of the songs played at her funeral came on the radio today and it knocked the wind out of me. How is it possible she isn't here any more? She was 31. Life is so short and so unpredictable. I'm so lucky to be here and have what I have with my children and husband.
I really miss her. I knew she was going to die and knew I would miss her but it's hard to still feel so sad about it all. She was so vibrant.
This is my first real experience of death of someone close. It's that weird stage where it hasn't 'just' happened, so people aren't sympathetic (they would be if I spoke to them about how I'm feeling and how much I miss her) but there's nothing that can be said to make it any easier or any better. So whilst there is of course a point in talking about her, because she was incredible, there is no point in talking about how i feel because nothing can make me feel better about it.
I feel like I am rambling now, but it's just so bloody cruel and pointless to have lost her.
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1wokeuplikethis · 05/07/2018 20:50
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