Hi there,
This is a very difficult post to write and I hope I don't some how come across wrong.
My good friend lost her partner a few months ago. They were incredibly close/did everything together.
She has since started replacing his support with mine. She messages throughout the whole day, if I don't reply she uses another form of contact etc and sometimes rings the home phone early in the morning.
I have two children, depression, three jobs and a husband of my own. So I am finding that as time goes on, her dependence on me in causing some real problems for me
I am completely supportive and understanding of what an awful situation she is going through - I can't begin to imagine. But I'm struggling with a sense of suffocating a bit. I simply can't continue to be there for her as much as she would like me to be.
I can't afford the continued loss of work time, the neglect of my children and partner etc that is already happening. However, she is quite manipulative and guilt-inducing. I don't for a minute think she is doing this deliberately - but the result on me is the same.
She has limited close friends and unhelpful family support. But I can't continue to carry the burden of being her sole supporter.
Can anyone please offer me some advice on how I could manage the situation without causing even more upset on her part?
Thank you in advance. And please, please, don't judge me for being unkind. I've dropped everything to support her, spent money I don't have and done as much as I psychically can. She is also coming to stay with us for a month or so in the summer. I'm struggling to meet my own needs as well as hers and it's starting to cause issues with my own mental health conditions and family etc.
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