My Dad's died

[mossyroundhill]

Found out today and I have no idea what to do. We hadn't spoken in two years (EA and I'd had enough), my DM and I have only recently begun to rebuild a relationship. She's currently staying with relatives, who haven't spoken to me since my relationship with Dad broke down. I want to be there for my DM but is it appropriate in this situation to invite myself (and DH/DC) to stay? I want to look after her but I'm worried about being judged by relatives, worried she might not want us round.
Do I take food? Do I try and keep her busy? I don't want to go on my own, things feel too fragile and I don't think I'd know what to say or do.
Can anyone help please.

[echt]

All your mum what she wants. It's tricky she's with the rels, but let her decide, not them.

Sorry for your loss, mossy.

[echt]

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