Coping

[MissSophieB397]

My dad died on Sunday 24/9/2017 and I’m struggling completely. I’m 20 years old and we still don’t know his cause of death as it may need to go to an inquest. He was out with me, my sisters and my mother the night before (not intentionally, we saw him out which is very odd he never went out) and him and my Mum baring in mind they’d been divorced 6 years, they got on well which again is unusual it was almost as if it was meant to be. Before my dad died, me and him hadn’t spoken much we had a silly fall out but luckily the night before he died we made up and hugged which I’m so pleased about. My dad was a heavy drinker and his partner has been awful to us since he passed, blaming us for his death saying we allowed him to drink whilst he was out (we didn’t know how much he had been drinking prior) and not allowing us to have any of his belongings. I just feel guilt, can’t do anything without feeling like I shouldn’t be doing this because my dad has died. I’m just wondering how long this lasts and what helps. I’ve got bereavement counselling after my dads funeral which hopefully will help but this is horrible. He was only 51, worked all his life.

[BackforGood]

I didn't want your post to go unanswered.
Feeling angry is a very natural part of the grieving process. Even more so when your Dad was so young. Of course you are struggling - everything is so raw! You haven't even had the cause of death yet, or had chance to sort the funeral or anything. Try to understand that everyone else close to him will also be grieving, so his partner's anger is also part of her processing her grief.
Talk to your Mum and your sisters. Share memories. Think of good times you had. Take care of yourselves.