Best friend took tablets but CS ruled out...confused

[Fluerdelea]

5 months ago my bf has a brief srgument with a friend, took tablets and alcohol left a scribbled 4 page letter and sadly died. It was unexpected, no history of this before, so much to live for, on anti depressants in past but off for over a year.. coroner said it was not suicide as there was no evidence to suggest and no history but ruled death through drugs (meds) and alcohol. Everyday I wonder why why why.

[Fluerdelea]

It was 8months...

[VeryButchyRestingFace]

Did the coroner rule death by misadventure?

I think it's relatively common not to rule the death a suicide in these circumstances.

Sorry for your loss.

[Iris65]

I am so sorry that this happened and that you are struggling.
Would the death being ruled a suicide answer your question? It seems to me that the majority of those bereaved by suicide are still asking that question.
A sudden death from any cause often leads to people being overwhelmed by just question. Sadly there are often no answers.g

[Fluerdelea]

I suppose it's answers Im looking for. Why did she do it, why didnt I pick up on it the day before I spoke to her, why didnt she speak to me, why didnt she text someone - just questions I cant ask her. She had alot to look forward to and I know. Perhaps she thought it was a cry for help that maybe went wrong but the amount of meds found was enough for her to know that it would end her life.

Just so sad.

[laptopshmaptop]

OP I'm sorry for your loss, and I really feel your pain.

I am 7 years on from my Mum's suicide and have been torn apart by this. I'll never know for definite whether she actually meant to do it, or whether it was another cry for help, but am slowly coming to accept that it is what it is.

As harsh as it sounds, a verdict of suicide probably wouldn't stop you asking all the 'Whys' anyway, although I totally understand why you feel you need to have some sort of confirmation.

You might benefit from some counselling though, as I've found it difficult to organise and process what actually happened and how it has affected me.

[AceholeRimmer]

I'm so sorry about your friend OP I'm wondering why it wasn't ruled a suicide when she left a note? Did the note explain anything?