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My mum (and best friend) died this afternoon.

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ElectricMelon Tue 11-Oct-16 21:44:22

My mum died this afternoon after a few days on life support. She collapsed Friday and we were told to prepare for the worst but it still didn't hurt any less when my dad walked into my living room a few hours ago and told me that she had gone.

How am I supposed to feel? I feel numb mostly with a few episodes of crying and feeling like my chest is going to explode. I just want my mummy sad

passportmess Tue 11-Oct-16 21:47:00

oh Electric I'm so sorry to hear this. A good friend lost his Mum a month ago and he felt much the same. Grief hurts physically. Take care of yourself.

passportmess Tue 11-Oct-16 21:49:12

My friend's Mum died suddenly. He described the disbelief. I've been on the phone every day to him to support him. He's not sleeping well but is keeping going. Do you have someone with you now?

MrsNuckyThompson Tue 11-Oct-16 21:50:25

I'm so very sorry. It's awful because when you feel like this who else do you want but your mum? My DH really struggled with this when DMIL died. Anyway just try to look after yourself. Sleep if you can, keep your strength up and take strength from the rest of your family.

Milzilla Tue 11-Oct-16 21:50:30

I'm so sorry for your loss Electric sad

My mum is my best friend too.

Be kind to yourself, look after one another and take it one day at a time xxxx

mineofuselessinformation Tue 11-Oct-16 21:53:58

I was on your other thread, Electric.
I'm so sorry. Feeling numb is fine for now, and anything else you feel. flowers

persianpeach Tue 11-Oct-16 22:00:42

So so sorry. I worry about losing my Mum constantly. You are stronger than you think I'm sure and you and your family will pull together to get each other through. Sending you hugs flowersflowersflowers

ElectricMelon Tue 11-Oct-16 22:02:34

Thank you all. I am on my own because I can't face it all and I don't want to go back to my mum's house without her there.

My poor mum sad

Grumpyoldblonde Tue 11-Oct-16 22:03:08

Im so sorry, I saw your other thread and hoped so much your mum would pull through. It's horrible to lose a parent and you have my deepest sympathy. The next few days and weeks will likely be horrendous, but you will see the sun again , I promise. In the meantime, be very kind to yourself.

2kids2dogsnosense Tue 11-Oct-16 22:06:31

So very sorry for your loss, A sudden and unexpected bereavement like thesis particularly hard to cope with. You will still be in shock - as you describe it, you are numb. Please be as kind to yourself as you can, and I hope that you and your dad have good who can help you through this awful time. The pain does not stop, but you do learn to cope with it.

My prayers are with you and your father.

saffynool Wed 12-Oct-16 07:38:27

I'm so sorry. My mum died unexpectedly on Monday morning. It's just horrendous, everything feels like it's changed. I too am having those periods of intense crying followed by a sort of blankness. Its normal though, everything you feel is normal and I think you just have to go with it. Its going to be bloody awful for a while but it will get better after a while. Just cry when you need to, no one will mind and it's necessary, we do it because we need to. So sorry for your terrible loss flowers

phoria Thu 13-Oct-16 01:23:01

so sorry op. straight after someone you love dies is the worst. it feels so unreal, like you're in a horrible dream. i think the shock is probably protecting you now and the logistics of organising a funeral will carry you through. when my mum died i saw grief as something which would peak after she died and lessen over time but if anything it's gotten worse the longer it is since the last time i saw her but it's only been 6 months or so for me.

take care of yourself, lovely. xx

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