My sister died 6 years ago. We'll never actually know how or why, despite an inquest, as she'd been dead a few days before she was found. She'd had an unhappy life, alcohol and drug problems, mental health problems. She was found in 23 December.
She left behind three daughters. I was already adopting her youngest when it happened, and wound up dealing with everything pretty much on my own. Sorted Christmas for all the kids, organised the funeral, dealt with the will and after the first week or so, cleared her house. No one would even babysit, so I had to bring the toddler with me. The house clearance took 3 months, hard graft. She'd trashed the place, it was horrible. On my own with a toddler.
We have just had the middle child move in 6 months ago. She has Aspergers traits and pulls her hair out. She's still very much coming to terms with the loss of her mum (and abandonment by her dad), so now I am dealing with her bereavement, plus her sister (who we adopted) has turned against me as a reaction( I'm not her real mum etc). It's a pretty horrible time and my husband is very withdrawn.
We have building work going on, and clearing rooms over the weekend has really brought it rushing back, I'm pretty overwhelmed. I tried to talk to my husband about it but he just walked off.
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Peonylass · 09/12/2015 18:58
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