Hi all. My mother has been struggling with cancer for a couple of years and is now stopping treatment. I have two DC age 5 and 7 and really not sure how to play it in terms of talking about her illness. Since she was diagnosed there have been times when she was obviously not well, and we've talked about her having a poorly tummy which they have accepted with no additional questions. This was fine when they were younger and there was a chance she would get better, however now that's not the case we feel we can't keep alluding to it as such as it could really freak them out in the future if they also then have a 'poorly tummy' and think they might also die. We could tell them she has cancer, and that doesn't mean much to them I think to be overly concerning, but if they then mention this to other adults they could react strongly to it. I don't really want to tell them the whole truth while she is still fairly mobile too and not obviously that ill, although there may come a time when we have to, either because she is so ill we can't not, or they start asking questions.
Generally I'm pretty open with them about lots of things, but I don't know that being told grandma is going to die some time soon, but we don't know when, is going to help them at all. Thanks for reading, sorry this is a bit long.
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TheMildManneredMilitant · 14/11/2015 19:20
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