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Mum's house sale goes through tomorrow

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YorkGirl2015 · 18/06/2015 00:44

My mum died 15 months ago.. She was ill, but it was sudden because it was aggressive undiagnosed bowel cancer.. I'm the executor of her will & tomorrow my final duty will be done & her house will be sold. I went there tonight to do a final meter reading & to check it was ok .. I just found it so emotional ., this wasn't just her home, it was mine too.. The house I lived in since the day I was born.. I haven't physically lived there for over 20 years, but tonight I took one last look at my old bedroom & remembered all the posters on the wall. I went into her bedroom & remembered coming home as a teenager & sitting on her bed telling her about my night out.. I stood in the garden & remembered the games that me & my friends played there & her playing with my own children.. 40+ years of memories in one place.., just feeling emotional. my final physical link with her is gone

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ratsintheattic · 18/06/2015 00:54

It's so hard. DH going through the same. He switches between saying it's just a house to getting very emotional. Maybe thinking that another family will be able to create lovely memories there now might help.

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YorkGirl2015 · 18/06/2015 01:06

Thank you rats, that's a lovely idea for positive thoughts to move forward with

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PuddingandPie1 · 19/06/2015 12:15

Mum and Dad had divorced a while before my Mum died. Emptying her house wasn't too traumatic as I had never lived there. But it is a curious feeling when you find things that your parents had kept hidden from you your entire life!

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Finola1step · 19/06/2015 12:22

We are at the beginning of this. MIL's house has gone on the market this week. The very house her own father was born in. It has been in the family for over 100 years but neither DH and I nor BIL and SIL can see ourselves taking it on. Very sad.

I hope all goes smoothly today York

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MyballsareSandy · 19/06/2015 12:30

So difficult. I was bad enough when my mum went into a home and I sold her house, and I hadn't even lived there, it wasn't our childhood home.
so it must be extra difficult for you.

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ladylinda52 · 20/06/2015 10:23

Been through the same thing. It was a really traumatic experience. The sweetest memory is of a huge burly refuse collector who gave me an enormous bear hug as they carted off the last of the bits and pieces that I hadn't been able to take, pass on, give to charity etc. he was SO sweet!

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YorkGirl2015 · 20/06/2015 22:15

Everything went through smoothly thank you, but I confess I was a bit glassy eyed handing the keys over to the estate agents, knowing that was it

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