I just want to be with my son. He died in September, he was 12. Colin was my best friend. I had him when I was only 17, my husband was 18. Our lives became so much better when he arrived. He made my life worthwhile
I miss him so much, it hurts. My heart hurts all the time. I drive past his school, his football team's field, the park where he used to play, and I break down almost every time.
I am a rubbish mum for my daughter (she is 5) as I am never in the mood to do anything with her or take her out anywhere. I am also pregnant, due May 5th and I feel so guilty about it... I feel bad that I probably wont be a perfect mum for the baby. I feel guilty that Colin wont be here for it.. what if he thinks i'm replacing him? I knew I was pregnant before he died but I didn't tell either of the kids as I wanted to wait until I was in the 2nd tri. Now I wish I did because he was never told about his sibling.
My husband is just as loving with her as he was before and he's acting distant towards me. He used to be really romantic and would hold me while I cried at night but for about 3 months he's just been acting really weird to me. We both go to counselling but I don't feel any better for it. I want my husband back too but he's hardly talking to me.
I just want my baby boy back. I want to see his wide smile again, I want to see his dirty socks on the floor on his bedroom... I want to see him blush when I kiss him goodbye in front of his friends.. I need him back so much. I want to be with him. I feel like my daughter and my husband would be better off without me, I hardly do anything and I know my husband hates it. I take my DD to school then I just sit around. I try. I really do. But it's so hard.
Will it ever get any better?? I don't know how to cope... his death was so sudden, I never thought I would be here. I am so close to just giving up after this baby is born.
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jessiesw · 27/03/2015 14:36
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