Hi,
sorry...this is going to be a bit long...too much to get off my chest...
I gave birth last month to our little baby daughter. We had to ha ve a termination at 26 weeks after we found out she has a genetic disorder.
Everyday feels different and I never know whether I'm going to be okay or not.
I'm finding it very difficult to cope with hubby's reluctance to talk about it. He gets really sad at times but his sadness turns into anger. He gets stroppy about so many things and blames me for really silly stuff.
I've told him i felt he wasn't dealing with what hapenned and that it came out with on-going nagging. He acknowledges it but doesn't do anything to get better.
He blames me for being sad all the time which i feel is unfair because I'm doing my best not to show him how sad i am and how often i cry.
I am seeing a coucellor, he says he doesn't have time for this. The sessions always turn out talking about him and his grief.
I know i should get on with my own grief but i feel we're slowly drifting apart.
We used to be so close and we're still very much in love but i just can't cope with his bad temper and his patronising attitude towards my grief.
I love him dearly but this is a bit too much to bear. I know it sounds silly but i miss my little girl so much and i have so much love to give, i can't stand being rejected like that.
I an see hubby's really suffering.
Anyone been through anything similar?
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phanie · 04/07/2006 08:32
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