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I'm so sad tonight

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kansasmum Fri 17-May-13 22:32:12

My darling Dad has been diagnosed with a hepatic carcinoma. He's been ill for past 4 weeks and Drs have been trying to find out the cause. I'm a nurse and had my suspicions right from the beginning but hoped I was wrong. Sadly I wasn't. We are trying now to get him home with carers, palliative care team etc etc.. My parents have to self fund the care so it seems its up to us to sort it out. No-one has been terribly helpful with this so far. My sister and I are trying to sort it out.
My mum is in denial but I think she knows in heart but can't face it.

Dr couldn't give us a timeline but given his rapid decline I think a few weeks at most is all we havesad
My poor Dd(19) is devastated- she has adored her Grandpa from the day she was born. My other dd(17) is quiet and not talking much. I haven't said much to my Ds cos he's only 6. Will have to find a way to explain.
Such a crap daysad

flanbase Fri 17-May-13 23:44:48

So sorry to hear on what's happening to your Dad and for you and family

mikkii Fri 17-May-13 23:49:01

Sorry to hear your sad news.

Sh1ney Sun 19-May-13 23:02:52

In much the same situation

I'm sorry - it's shit

verygentlydoesit Sun 19-May-13 23:05:50

I'm so sorry. What a terribly sad situation, it seems so unfair that ontop of dealing with your Dad's illness, you are having to sort out his care yourselves.

Saddayinspring2 Sun 19-May-13 23:09:17

Sorry to hear this sad news and wishing you strength and support in the next few weeks

kansasmum Mon 20-May-13 19:28:14

Sh1ney- so sorry you are going through it too. Getting cares is a nightmare- no-one can start til next weeksad.
On the upside- dad's GP is the dad of ds's best friend and he is being amazing- said phone him as soon as we know when Dad is coming home and he will sort out palliative care team and they can help with carers etc. he even said phone him at home if necessary. He was so helpful so that's something.
Mum is a nightmare - she's always been self centred and difficult but she's taking it to new heights. Told the OT today that the bedroom with large ensuite is NOT to used under any circumstances! Even though its the best room for Dad to be in. It's HER bathroom and she's not giving it up. She is a selfish cow. No point in arguing with her though - she is such a manipulative bitch.

Dad was a bit brighter today but still looks awful. For some bizarre reason they are sending rehab physio out 3-4 times a week.!! Seems nuts to me! He dying.

tungthai Mon 20-May-13 22:09:19

KansasMum, my Dad recently died after being diagnosed with the same condition.

My only advice is to spend as much time with him as possible. My Dad was at home for one week but was then readmitted to hospital it was for the best as he lived alone. I would have been happier if he could have been in a hospice but it wasn't to be.

Sending you and your family peace and goodwill.

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