Evening everyone,
I need a bit of moral support over the next couple of weeks. My DM died suddenly a year and a day ago. To cut a long story short, we (my DH, DS & DD) moved into her house six months ago with the intention that it should be our permanent home (I grew up in the house)
The problem has been that it's a big, old house and full of clutter, dust and so much stuff to sort out. I feel I have been making small inroads in the last six months but as I'm sure you can appreciate, it's so hard to devote big chunks of time to it when you have two small children (aged 3 yrs & 21 months). Anyway 'D'H has given me an ultimatum: sort the house out or we move out. He says it's not safe/hygienic/appropriate for the kids. I can see his point of view to a certain extent, but he has offered me virtually no practical help and certainly no moral support. I'm also under pressure as we have family coming to stay in two weeks' time, and they are very particular.
So, I've got to really pull out all the stops now and get it done: clearing, painting, repairs, sorting, decluttering. I've GOT to make it look dramatically different by next time DH comes home (he works away) in a week's time. So I'm doing this every night once the DCs have gone to sleep.
I totally appreciate there's another thread's worth of issues here regarding my relationship with my DH. I can't tackle that at the moment as the house and keeping it as our home is the priority. (I would be absolutely heartbroken and devastated if I had to move out.) Also, until I get the house up to standard, I'm not in a strong position to tackle these issues. I HATE the fact that he won't support/help me but I HAVE to focus on completing this task first so I can then sit down and have a sensible talk with him about the dynamic in our relationship (and if it is to continue).
So, can anyone please help and give me some encouragement while I sort the house out every night? It's so hard. I just found an unused baby dress from the 70s my mum probably bought for me and never put me in. I think my DD is too big for it now as well...
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lilacblossom · 14/05/2013 22:19
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