He's a dad at karate. We've chatted a lot. His wife died on Thursday. He has 3 dc. What should I do? I've scrawled a note on the back of an envelope I found in my bag saying that I'm sorry & if I can do anything at all to let me know & I put my number on the bottom. Do I give it to him or leave it? It's silence so I can't talk to him & the children will be around at the end. Is passing a note to him weird?