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Grieving..child versus adult

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WillIEverBeASizeTen · 07/10/2012 20:04

I lost my Mum 2 weeks ago..a friend of mines estranged wife passed away in June leaving a 14 year old daughter. I am inconsolable but my friends daughter shows very little emotion. I feel I have to curb my emotion in front of him as I feel he may think I'm being dramatic.

I swing from mood to mood, good days/hours bad days/hours..is this all normal?

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CheerfulSoul · 07/10/2012 20:43

Oh you poor thing - I am sorry. I can only begin to imagine how you feel. I lost my sister last year at 39 years old and I was utterly deverstated. Sometimes I could cope, sometimes I lay down and sobbed. I couldn't imagine half a lifetime without her.
My best advice is to get some counselling - I saw a wonderful lady from Cruse Bereavement Care and she really helped me understand what had happened and come to terms with it.
One thing I learnt within my family is that everyone grieves differently and needs different things - your friend's daughter may well be having a very different experience to you and handling it differently.
Right now I would focus on dealing with your own grief and see if you can find someone to support you who isn't dealing with their own emotions too.

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