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Missing my sister(8 Posts)
It's been just over 2 months since I lost my younger sister and this is the first time I've posted about it. I'm a regular and know you are all there if I need you, but it is really hard to think about it.
I know it will get easier in time but yesterday I saw some things and thought they would be nice for my sisters. I picked up 3 and then remembered I only needed 2 now.
I'm not sure I've really faced up to it. I've thrown myself into my work and family leaving myself so tired I can't think some evenings. But now I am part time I'm scared I will have to allow myself time to grieve.
I would never tell someone grief is self indulgent as I know it is necessary to heal but can't seem to be able to allow myself the time. I think I'm scared.
Just trying to put it out there really, I'm going to have a lovely weekend with friends and family but she will be missed so much.
It's been 9 years for me. I haven't got over it, can't talk about it, haven't faced up to it, can't think about it because it makes me so upset. I'm crying now and will go.
I'm sorry for your loss.
So sorry for your loss.
I lost my brother just over 2 weeks ago and even though it's starting to sink in a bit, it still feels unreal. I still think about things/events as if he was still here/going to be there.
I think i understand what you mean about being scared. I've tried to keep busy as I don't want to feel like i'm wallowing in self pity, but at the same time I want to be able to hide away on my own somewhere and scream and shout and howl and wail.
Sorry I can't offer any advice, just wanted you to know people are thinking of you. I hope you have a good weekend.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Don't be hard on yourself for grieving - two months is barely any time at all.
TheQueen Its 7 weeks since the death of my husband. It's a horrible time and if you feel anything like me it feels like no time at all, like time has stood still. Am truly sorry for your loss and the pain you are feeling. I've had wonderful support here and you know it's here if you need it.
Queen so sorry for your loss. I lost my beautiful younger sister 5 years ago. The grief and pain is still very raw and I am so sad that she will never meet my children, nor they her. But I can now remember and be with her as she lived, rather than only think about her death, which dominated all thoughts of her for a long time.
Allowing yourself to grieve is terrifying because you have to face reality. And it's a reality you never ever wanted. But since you can't 'get over' death and grief, you can only go through it- wading through the reality is all you can do. And you will get to the other side. But be kind and easy on yourself-2 months is very little time indeed.
Oh and to add, howling and wailing is good for you. Dot think about self pity- it doesn't exist right now.