I wasn't quite sure where to post this, so apologies in advance if this is in any way insensitive.
I have lost three family members, one friend and a beloved dog over the past three years or so. Often I have very vivid dreams, almost nightmares, where my loved ones have 'come back' for a special day (eg. Christmas) and I am the only one who realises that there is anything at all strange. I spend the dream trying to either a) make people realise that the loved one in question has in fact passed away, as everyone has somehow forgotten, or don't realise that death is permanent, or b) trying to convince people that the person who they thought had passed away actually hasn't.
Either way, it's quite distressing and exhausting. I've had the dreams since I was quite young, probably about 14 when I lost my cat. I would dream that I saw him in the garden and would have to catch him and tell everyone he hadn't died. Except he would slip through my fingers every time.
I've had seperate dreams where my grandma, grandad and nan have each come back for Christmas or a birthday and nobody but me has batted an eyelid, and I've been frantically trying to stop them from 'going back'.
I dreamt that my friend had knocked on my door and begged me not to tell anyone she was really alive, and we had to hide it, and we had a fun day out even though I was desperate to tell her mum the 'truth'. Last night I dreamt that we'd moved house to somewhere pets would be welcome and I got my (dead) cat and dog back, as though they could just be returned from the dead if you wanted them.
The dreams are sort of comforting in that the deceased really feel real and alive and with me, but they're underpinned by a sense of panic that stays with me all day.
Does anyone else have this? Or have any comforting/upsetting dreams about loved ones who have passed away?
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MackerelOfFact · 08/08/2011 17:26
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