A whole section of my family wiped out in 3yrs.......

[Toothache]

....He had had it for a while and had been told there wasn't much more they could do for him. But they also said he could have a good 2 years left! Clearly not.

He died, alone in hospital as his wife had gone home as they'd had an arguement (she's a bit of a scary woman.....and everyone has had suspicions about her motives since she only married him after he inherited alot from his parents). Anyway.... ARGUING with him as he is lying on his death bed and then storming off in a huff?????

Anyway.... I wasn't that close to him as he spent a lot of years in the army, then when he got ill he wouldn't let anyone visit him. My Mum was very close to him though. It's just so sad.

He was 51, had no children. He was an only child and his Mum and Dad both died in the past 3 yrs. 3yrs ago his Mum (my Aunt Netty) died of bowel cancer, and then 18mths ago his Dad (Uncle Robert) died during heart surgery.

So in 3 yrs that's an entire part of my Mums side of the family just wiped out.... gone.

It has really made me take a step back and see how important being part of a family is.

Just me waffling....

[Toothache]

Ooops, first sentence of my post seems to have been deleted.

It should have read:

My cousin died of throat cancer yesterday!

[Enid]

sorry to hear that toothy. Are you feeling alright today?

[Aimsmum]

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[Toothache]

Actually, I'm not feeling very good at all. This hit me harder than I ever thought it would! Not so much grieving over my cousin.... but shocked and scared as how quickly it all happened and sad for my Mum and my Gran. My Gran is the eldest of 7 and she has watched all but 2 of her siblings die in that last 10 yrs. Now their children are dying too.

My Mum really isn't close to anyone else in her family..... so all she has left is my Gran, who is so ill with Parkinsons that she doesn't have long left either.

[Aimsmum]

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[MarsLady]

I'm sorry for the loss that has taken place toothache. Words can't say what I want to. You're in my th9oughts.

[Toothache]

Thanks for the nice words Aimsmum, Enid and Marslady. I'm feeling a bit better about it now, but its easy to detach from things at work isn't it.

The funeral is on Tuesday.

[chloe55]

How awful for you and your family Toothache, thinking of you at this sad time and, like Aimsmum said, you might feel a little better if you grieve with your mum, and if not for you then your mum will prob def need a hug too.

[Aimsmum]

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[PeachyClair]

Will be thinking of you Tuesday, and your poor Mum too. Very sorry for your losses.

[suedonim]

So sorry to hear your sad news, Toothache.

[tabitha]

Sorry to hear that toothache
Sad for your mum and your gran too - hope Tuesday's not too bad for you all.