Ok this must be about the fifth thread I've started over the last couple of years about ds2's behaviour (I am a newly name changed oldie). He is bright and extrovert and 90% of the time charming and lovely. However at home, and particularly when we spend any extended time as a family, he increasingly flies into angry violent rages when he is thwarted. these include hitting, kicking, spitting, scratching etc etc. He gets into a 'zone' and it is really hard to reach him and get him out of these moods once he is in them.
We have tried loads of different strategies. Time out, star charts, positive rewards and negative consequences, talking about it, big hugs/validation of negative feelings etc etc. It is not getting any easier and I feel I am locked in a semi-permanent confrontation with him and increasingly anxious/on edge about setting boundaries for him in case he 'kicks off'. I try really hard to be patient but he pushes my buttons so hard that I do often end up losing it with him.
Am feeling really miserable and in need of help. I love him and don't want to mess him up, right now i think I am doing
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Rages and violence in 6 year old - at my wits end
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nearlytoolate · 08/05/2010 19:55
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