So DS1 is 3.5 and has recently started having serious meltdowns. He was quite an easy two year old but now, I think brought on by having a baby brother (DS2 is 7 months) and by being ill, he's losing it in a dramatic style whenever something doesn't go his way.
Have been trying to deal with them as calmly as possible, but would appreciate any tips from people who have been there/done that!
To give an example - this morning he wouldn't tell me what he wanted for breakfast, and when I said I would choose then he shouted 'No!' at me and kicked me (not hard). I said if he did that again he could go in the corridor for 2 minutes. He did it again. I put him in the corridor, he screamed his head off and wouldn't stay in there.
Every time he came back in I put him out again, until the screaming got so loud DP couldn't work so I took DS1 upstairs. He wouldn't stay in his bedroom so I kept putting him back, trying not to talk to him or engage with him, just kept saying 'Two minutes'. Eventually he lay down on the floor outside his bedroom and carried on wailing, I left him there for two minutes then went up and got him. He wouldn't say sorry, so he got another two minutes, more screaming and wailing, eventually he stopped and we got a sorry and all was calm.
Is this the best way? DP tends to take him upstairs and stay with him and try and talk him round, whereas I'm more in favour of ignore and put him back until he stops, is one better than the other? Can't take many more meltdowns like this!
Any advice welcomed.
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3 year old tantrums, am I dealing with these right?
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WhatFreshHellIsThis · 11/11/2009 10:27
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