I use friends in a lose term as they are not really friends......
Ds (aged 9) has recently been playing with a neighbour's son who is 12, this boy has recently been in a bit of trouble at school but as his family are currently going through a very hard time I can understand some of the reasons behind his attention-seeking behaviour. However, over the weekend ds and this boy have been out on his bike with this lad, yesterday they were joined by another boy, also 12 who belongs to the nightmare family of the town - you know the ones, pinch bikes, defy all rules (kids never wear uniform to school), swearing, parents see to have absolutely no control. This is where my problem starts....
I don't want to be someone who tars the whole family with the same brush but all this lad's older siblings are trouble and I really don't want ds hanging around with them. On the other hand ds has got to see this lad's faults himself and this lad MAY be ok. On Sunday (ds wasn't with them at the time) these two boys were catching newts in the local pond and generally being a pain in the kids play park - behaviour that I have always found really annoying. Yesterday, I got round the problem by inviting them in - offered them crisps and drinks etc. and they played on the Playstation - afterwards dh took them to the park and played cricket with them - not wanting to just shove them away but supervising them at the same time.
It is half term and dh is at home today - he has just rung to say that these two lads have called for ds and he has fobbed them off for now but I need some suggestions on how we deal with this situation. Ds can be a bit gullible.
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How do I discourage ds' 'friends'
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Jaybee · 27/05/2003 15:23
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