I have had many problems with DS, he has had help. I try to live by the OP
philosophy, but at 11, his behaviour can be very extreme and difficult to ignore.
Where am I going wrong? I lost the plot this morning after a horrendous weekend spent with his Dad, (we are separated, but he is struggling to have them on his own, and their relationship is fragile.
DS was;
Playing music on his phone very loudly in public places.
Kicking street furniture,
Kicking gravel even if there were people around,
winding his sister up and then punching/shoving her if she reacted or retaliated.
Throwing things in anger.
After his bath 'drew' all over the bath with the plug leaving a black mess, blaming his sister and letting her get 'told off' and only owning up when I said I was disconnecting the internet.
Refuses to eat fruit/veg at all.
Spends any money he can get his hands on on 'junk'. (big catalyst)
Swearing.
And all the minor stuff.
Doesn't put rubbish in bins,
Won't help around the house (I have tried to get him to do it 'nicely'....would you be a good boy and do x or y rather than nagging.)
Won't brush his teeth, etc etc etc
The list is endless, and I try to keep focussing on the positive but sometimes he doesn't give me much to go on.
I struggle to get him to co-operate and even though I try to be good humored generally, it is a challenge to achieve anything.
I am trying so hard, and unfortunately copletely lost the plot this morning.
Applying firm boundaries results in him losing his temper big time. I had started to get somewhere but the weekend was hell. For us all.
I feel I have let him down badly.
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Ignoring the bad behaviour and praising the good....does it always work.
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TheMitsubishiWarrioress · 19/10/2009 16:47
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