Dd's new pre-school took me to one side and told me that dd is very bright. Apparently she is always the first to put her hand up and answer questions and remember the things they learned yesterday.
Of course, this is an absolutely lovely thing to hear and I am pleased that dd seems to have settled in well and is happy in her new class.
But, well, dh and I have both said that while dd is obviously fine and average, she is not noticeably bright. Oh, I don't know, it's hard to word without sounding horribly negative about my own child, but I would describe her as cheerful and dreamy and easily hoodwinked and raucous and giggly, but definitely not particularly bright.
So, with the caveat that at 3 yrs old it obviously doesn't matter much, shall I believe Teach and be quietly pleased that dd seems to be bright, or shall I assume it's something they say to all the mummies and instead just be pleased her teacher is nice and she's happy in her new class?
This is the sort of thing you could ONLY EVER ask on Mumsnet.
I think they always try to say nice positive things, but not always that they're "bright", so it could be "friendly" or "helpful" or whatever. But she sounds like she's enthusiastic and paying attention to the "lessons" - which will do her at least as much good as being brighter than average anyway!
I think they work out a child's character and then find a positive way of commenting on it. TBH all it tells me is that the teacher has taken time to understand your child and work out what their USP is. Which sounds pretty positive.
My DS was described to me as kind and friendly and hugely popular and adorable. Which means - to my mind - "thick as s*, but happy and enjoying himself". Which works for me. My DD was described as 'very bright and knowing her own mind'. I replied to the teacher that, yes, I knew what she meant, but we had a less polite way of describing it at home. And the teacher fell about laughing .
It is great that, as squiffy says, they have taken the time to work out what her 'USP' is, especially as I have just started a thread in pre-school, asking how I can get some info from pre-school about my DS who has just started.