young 2 year old self disciplinging himself?

[bumbly]

newly turned 2 year old has had discpline imposed on him for a while now eg stay there for a few mins to let steam out etc, toy is rmeoved till you stop dropping it etc

but recently he has been saying on his own accord "take this toy away from me cuz been screaming"

does your toddler warn you he has done something wrong and asks you to put him on naughty pad/take toy away etc himself?

find this MOST odd

also recently he keeps saying he hates and then likes a toy non stop swtiching from like/hate in seconds for ages! most annoying as screams to have it removed to then scream to have it back straight after

[gnatbite]

I am hoping that this is pretty standard 2 year old behaviour as my DD (2.4) is just the same! Her latest is to say, i am going to go STRAIGHT to bed when she knows she's been naughty (not that we have ever used going to bed as a punishment!) My thoughts with her were that she hates being told off therefore decided to get in there first! With regards to switching from like/hate, there was a very funny thread on here a couple of days ago about irrational toddler tantrums, it might be worth a read

[bumbly]

exactly and i rarely have taken...if not ever taken a toy away....so why lo should say this after being screaming/naughty baffles me!!!

[gnatbite]

Tantrum thread here

[PavlovtheForgetfulCat]

No but I wish she did sometimes! She says she is upset with us though, or that we have been norty!

I do think it is quite normal though.

[ksld]

Quite normal - and is a really good sign he is understanding that bad behaviour = punishment. He is just getting in their first, partly because he is expecting you to discipline him anyway. If you think of it more as his subconcious (have spelt that wrong!) working rather than actually telling himself off, but he's not sophisticated enough to say it in his head only so it comes out as an actual self telling off.
If he starts punishing himself/dolls for random things that are not naughty then you need to look at enforcing what is/is not naughty with him, but for now sounds absolutely fine.
If he has been bad I would go along with him and remove the toy, but if he just says it without being bad first, then you can tell him he can keep it as he has not done anything naughty.

[bumbly]

thanks for that - in fact sometimes does seem to be confused in that not really been naughty so yes will monitor that!!!!



thank you for your response

[pigletmania]

My dd says sorry when actually she has not done anything wrong, or when she has done something wrong to.

[feedthegoat]

My ds went through a phase of naughty cornering and confiscating things from his toys when they were 'naughty'.