15 mo DD tantrums for me only

[babyOcho]

DD has in the past few weeks been tantruming more but only for me. She doesn't do this at nursery and doesnt do it with DP either. In fact if DP walks into the room when she is rolling around the floor, she stops.

If I leave the room she crawls to look for me and as soon as I am in eye sight she stops and starts to roll around again.

I have tried ignoring her, but I am not sure whether this helps or not. I dont really know what to do. Should I continue to ignore her? It's hard, and I really dont know what to do.

[bargainhuntingbetty]

If it was me, I would remove her from my space and tell her that I dont want to be in the same room as someone who is carrying on like that. She will soon learn that the behaviour doesnt get her any of mums time, it only gets her pushed away from mum.

Alternatively, keep up with the ignoring providing everyone around you goes along with it (i.e dh doesnt try and talk her round etc). This is just a phase and it will pass.

Good luck

[Servalan]

My DD has a bit of a hierarchy of who she tantrums with.

She'll tantrum with me the most

Then DH

Then my DM

Other people she doesn't really tantrum for.

My theory is that she is testing her boundaries and will test them the most for the people she feels the most "safe" and secure with. (It's certainly not because she'll end up getting the tantrums rewarded with attention - that doesn't happen here!)

So going by this theory, be flattered that she tantrums for you only .

I think with tantrums, the best thing is to have a plan of action and stick to it, showing consistency. That way, the boundaries are becoming established. I am a fan of ignoring tantrums at this age, but making sure the space around them is safe (and padded if necessary).

Otherwise, distraction is a fabulous tool!

[hf128219]

Distraction all the way. They change in seconds!