3 year old escaped from school on 1st day. should I be cross with the school?

[3in3]

My little boy started early entitlement on tuesday. He is 1 of only 2 new starters. He went into school fine but when i went to pick him up they told me he'd got out and luckily the headmaster saw him and brought him back. I was so relieved to hear he was ok i didn't ask anymore quetions but now i've had nearly a week to think about it, i'm beginning to feel quite cross. Has this happened to anyone else? do you think i should bring it up with the school or let it lie? i think they are a bit embarrassed because noone has approached me to discuss it.

[BlueberryPancake]

Did he go in the street? out of school premises? where exactly did he go?

Yes I would be cross - could you ask them exactly what happened?

[whomovedmychocolate]

Does he have a keyworker? I'd take it up with them on Monday and yes I'd be bloody furious!

[tattycoram]

I would make a big fuss. They should be reviewing exactly how this happened and making sure it doesn't happen again.

[thisisyesterday]

i would be fuming!!!! of course you should be cross with them.
yes, it was "lucky" the headmaster saw him... but he should never, ever have been in that situation.
and what if he hadn't been spotted???

[PavlovtheCat]

school? Do you mean nursery/pre-school?

Appalling.

[LynetteScavo]

Blimey! I too would be cross!

I suppose it'd good that they did tell you though.

How on earth did he get out?

Have they made sure this can never, ever happen again.

[Lotster]

I'd be flippin furious! Sounds like they played it down, "lucky my arse"!
Like you should be grateful instead of livid that they can't take care of one of only two new starters on their first day.

Appalling.

[Dottoressa]

I would be furious!!!

Yes you most certainly should bring it up with the school, and in no uncertain terms. Grrrrrrrrrrrr.

[lou031205]

Is escapee behaviour a normal thing for your son, or would he be likely to have just wandered out?

If he is a bit of an escaper it might be worth emphasising that. Also ask what measures they have in place to ensure they don't lose children!

When DD started preschool I warned them of her tendencies because I saw a door open. They reassured me that they would look after her & were used to children of her age. Within two weeks they apologised and said they could see exactly what I meant!

It turns out that DD has SN and has 1:1 at preschool now (lots of reasons), but even with a NT child, schools sometimes need to be told if they have a slippery little one.

If he was more likely to have just wandered, they need to be looking at how they had an unsecured route to the outside.

[ReginaFelange]

Yes you should be angry. I would be asking for a full explanation and asking what they are doing to make sure it doesn't happen again

[NAB3lovelychildren]

When they said he was lucky the head saw him, it seems like the child and you should be grateful he did - and not that is is their fault he got out in the first place!

[3in3]

Thanks everyone for your messages. Its been a few weeks since my boy escaped, he seems really settled now but i'm still not happy. He came to the door at pickup time recently and unlocked the door in a second. i stopped him from coming out but it shocked me how long it took a teacher to come to him.. had i not been there and he'd decided to leave, he would have been out of the school grounds and down the road in the time it took someone to come to him.
Unfortunately, i have a silly but terrible fear of schools and struggle walking into the playground let alone talking to teachers. I know i'm being ridiculous. I make sure the babies aren't aware of how i feel. But it has stopped me from following the escape up....... i've just decided that i am going to talk to someone about it, for my boys safety, i'm nearly 30, what are the teachers going to do to me? nothing just talk. Thanks again everyone for being behind me and reminding me i'm not alone. xx