For a little while now my dd has been coming home from nursery with stories of being pushed over, having things taken from her etc I think this is fine. They're at that age after all. However the last few weeks (possibly even a month) these stories consistantly include a specific little boy 'A'. This has conincided with lots of tears and begging to stay home with me. She has also become quiet at home and very introvert, not wanting a cuddle etc and almost permantantly mardy, she's waking in the night crying and cries almost immediately when she gets up.
Anyway, I thought to myself, I ought to see how she was getting on at nursery in general and whether or not "A" was just generally boisterous or whether it was specifically aimed at dd (my dd has been known to tell tales and exagarate). Also I wanted to find out how she was getting on generally with the others in her group.
On Tuesday morning I explained the situation to the nursery leader and she said yes "A" is at that rough-and-tumble stage and she hadn't noticed anything specific towards dd, however, she would ask the girls that work with dd's group to keep an eye on this.
So, I picked dd up yesterday evening and was told she had been fine, I then saw one of the girls from dd's room who incidently has babysat for me before now and who I kinda know better than the others. She said that dd had started refusing to eat at nursery and that she'd had to feed her the lunch, also that she had been withdrawn and clingy for a little while. She mentioned that they had kept an eye on "A" and dd's interaction and so "A". I asked how long she had been withdrawn at nursery, 2, more, less... Apparently a couple of weeks or so, maybe more - but that's just that she can remember noticing
I just don't know what to do she seems so sad even at home now. I try to interact with her but nothing I do is right, I feel so sorry for her but I don't know what to do. I don't know what the cause could be and so I don't know what the solution is. I just hate seeing her look so sad, she used to be happy and cheeky now she's just sad and cross.
I feel useless, today I took her to nursery and she looked sad (not crying). I was going to stay for a while but she just looked vacant and told me to go - no wave, no smile, no tears nothing. what do I do?
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dd, 2yrs 8mths, is withdrawn
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TheVillageIdiot · 02/03/2005 11:42
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