Hello all,
Just wondered if anyone could set my mind at rest (or conform my fears!) about this...
My DD (was 3 in July) is extremely bright - I know all parents are biased - but I mean really bright, been talking eloquently and very articulately for over a year (as good as an adult), now reads, draws detailed pictures, does maths etc. Seriously smart little lady!
However, we have always had some 'problems' with her physical development...she is my only child at the mo (next one's due on Christmas Eve) and I have been a SAHM since she was born, so always given her lots of attention. I'm a little bit concerned though, that she's had so much attention that she's now a very clever but very lazy little girl!
To explain a bit - the 'big' things such as potty training, walking etc were very easy, we literally explained what she had to do and she did it. But she recently started preschool and they've picked up on some of our worries, for example...not being able to pedal the little tricycles at playtime, not having a lot of confidence on the climbing frame, not being able to go to the loo independlty. My own main concern is her eating habits - she has exceptional table manners and will eat everything we give her (Thai curry, all manner of soups, stews, pies, casseroles, fish, veg, anything) BUT she needs LOADS of encouragement to actually pick up her fork and do it herself. And quite a lot of the time she requests plastic animals or similar to play with inbetween forkfuls of food.
I'm not against stricter parenting (we Gina Ford-ed her as a baby) BUT my HV's advice of "let her do everything and eventually she'll be hungry enough and wet/soiled enough to realise that she has to do it on her own" seems VERY wrong! Maybe I have babied her too much, she's still my baby (until the 'real' baby arrives soon!) but she is only just 3 - should she really be able to use the toilet by herself at preschool, and eat a full meal on her own?
Sorry for the mammoth post, but this is a real worry to me. Any advice gratefully received!!
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VERY smart 3 year old...but underdeveloped??
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LoopyLizzie · 23/09/2008 19:50
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