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DD suddenly extremely upset and angry about nappy changing and dressing.

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DeJaVous · 17/09/2008 09:37

The last few days DD (just turned 10 months) has been getting seriously upset and angry about nappy changes and getting dressed. She screams, twists wildly, arches her back, flails her little arms and legs... well, you get the picture.

I have no idea what has caused it and I just don't know what to do! I try to remain calm and cheerful, whilst getting the necessary done as quickly as possible. Taking brakes for cuddling and calming make no difference what so ever to how upset she gets (she does calm, but is back in full flow the moment she touches the changing mat).

TBH I find it really rather upsetting. I don't like to make her feel so horrid but obviously I can't leave her in a pooey nappy or clothes she drenched in water.

I'm sure this too will (must) pass but any tips or advice would be great.

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macca08 · 17/09/2008 09:41

I distract our ds when i change his nappy by giving him a toy to play with. It's worked so far

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DeJaVous · 17/09/2008 09:46

I have tried that macca. And singing. And talking. And being quiet. And everything else I can think of TBH.

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megcleary · 17/09/2008 09:49

dd was like that now tis a phase i occasionally put tv on to distract her just a music channel think its the start of independance

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RustyBear · 17/09/2008 09:53

DS went through a phase of hating being laid on his back at about this age (this was 20 years ago, so he slept on his tummy) - I changed & dressed him standing- he had to hold onto me or the bars of his cot for balance for a while until he learned to stabd on his own. In the end I found it easier to change nappies standing as he was a very skinny baby & it was easier to get the fit right.

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DeJaVous · 17/09/2008 09:56

megcleary - I try to avoid her seeing any TV as DP has ADHD and I don't want to encourage it in her. I always change her on her changing table because if I try and do it on the floor she is away before I can even begin to get er sorted. There isn't a TV in her room.

If I get any more desperate I might give it a try anyway, am getting that desperate

Rusty - I'll give that a go, she can just about stand holding on to something, but sometimes she really doesn't want to...

At least she knows her own mind

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FeelingLucky · 17/09/2008 10:00

DD went through this same phase at around this age, so it will pass.
In meantime, giving DD my mobile phone for duration of nappy change worked and changing while standing also helped.

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DeJaVous · 17/09/2008 10:01

This changing whilst standing sounds like it could be a good solution.

How do you get trousers and socks on and off?

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RustyBear · 17/09/2008 11:41

With socks if he was holding on to something he could lift a foot. With trousers I gathered up the leg (like you do with tights) so I could pop his foot in, pulled the first leg up a bit so he didn't slip out (but not too far or you couldn't get the second leg on) then did the second leg the same way. I usually turned him with his back to me so I could hold him against me with one arm diagonally across him so I could still hold stuff with that hand - it sounds very complicated, but it's easier in practice.

This is all coming back to me now after 20 years...

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DeJaVous · 17/09/2008 12:17

Cheers Rusty sounds like a sensible approach. It's nearly time to change her again soI'll definitely give it a go! Thanks.

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DeJaVous · 17/09/2008 12:42

That went pretty well! Or at least until I pinched her fat little thigh between the popper on her vest and she bumped her head against the cot from the shock. Still a massive improvement on our recent changing sessions though.

Practice makes perfect and I'll definitely persevere!

Thanks again[smlie]